How I Met My Husband from a No Excuses Matchmaking Matchmaker!

In light of my three (YES, THREE!) year anniversary with my husband; I wanted to share the story of how we met with our No Excuses Matchmaking clients and Facebook friends.  At the end of March 2007, I was having lunch with a new friend of mine, Misty.  Over lunch we were having lighthearted conversation about guys, life in Dallas, and anything in general.  I told Misty that I wanted to meet a GOOD guy that had similar goals.  In literally five seconds she suggested that I meet a guy she knew that was a family guy, loyal friend, athletic, and a gentleman.  I was SOLD.  She suggested that she would send my myspace profile (yes, that was cool back then) to his e-mail so that he could see my pictures and read a little about me.  Later that day, she e-mailed me at work and said he wanted to meet me and could she give him my phone number.  He called me that evening and said he’d like to take me out to dinner in Dallas that Saturday.  I told him I was sorry, but, I had plans with my best high school girlfriends to come stay with me and we were hittin’ the town that night.  I politely offered that he could meet up with us for dinner.  He was a smart one… there would be 8 girls there and if he didn’t end up liking me then he would still have 7 other options.  So, that night he met us at Dragonfly at Hotel ZaZa and we had a lovely dinner.  8 months later we were engaged after dinner at Dragonfly and a sweet horse drawn carriage ride through Highland Park to look at Christmas lights.  We now have a precious little girl, too!  All this to say---this all started with someone who had a keen sense for matchmaking.  If you’ll notice, the process in which I met my husband is very similar to the No Excuses Matchmaking process today.  It works.  Trust me.  I would know. 

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[...continued] You can get engaged in a year; if that is what you want.   Impossible- you say?  There just aren’t any good ones out there- you bargain?  No Excuses!  In this series we are going to tell you 7 steps to getting engaged in 1 year.

Step Five: Eggs in separate baskets, please!  If you are doing steps 1-4 well; then you will likely be meeting someone who could be serious boyfriend/girlfriend potential.  DO NOT put all your eggs in one basket-yet!  More than likely, this special someone is still giving it a little time to see if this is indeed SERIOUS material.  So, keep dating other people.  DON’T date other people that are not potentials-that is a waste of time and energy.  But, do keep a couple of options open until the other person you are mainly interested in decides to commit.  More than likely SOMEONE will bring the topic of exclusivity up.  At No Excuses Matchmaking; we think it should be the guy.  We’re old-fashioned like that. 

Step Six:  Find a magic month and stick to it.  If after three months (that’s our recommendation); the man hasn’t made a suggestion for exclusivity then he’s either not into the woman or has commitment issues.  Regardless of “timing”- men who like women and vice versa will COMMIT to someone if they feel it’s worth it.  Again, we stress to the Ladies out there to let the man bring it up.  Do not even hint at it!  Let the man be a man!  And, if they don’t commit after 3 months to an exclusive relationship; they don’t want it.  You can give them 4 at the most.  But, if he/she isn’t ready to be your boyfriend/girlfriend by then-they certainly won’t be ready to be your fiancé in a year.

Step Seven: Engagement Stage!  You have found the person that you really, really like.  NOW, don’t get clingy, jealous, or needy.  Most people in this stage do become clingy, jealous, or needy and the opposite person realizes that this person is no different than the others and decides it is not marriage material.  So, keep going out with your friends and going about your daily activities.  Do stuff for your partner, but, do not go over board.  Let them know you want them in your life, but, you existence is not dependent on them.  Pretty soon your partner will start to notice how unique you are and that they’d like to keep you around forever.  At this point, the GENTLEMAN will begin planning for a proposal.  Do these steps precisely-they work! 

Visit www.noexcusestexas.com to begin the journey in meeting someone so that you can be engaged in a year (if that’s what you want).

Happy Dating!

[...continued] You can get engaged in a year; if that is what you want.   Impossible- you say?  There just aren’t any good ones out there- you bargain?  No Excuses!  In this series we are going to tell you 7 steps to getting engaged in 1 year.


Step Four: LEARN the tools and skills you need. You look great and are approachable and are probably meeting many members of the opposite sex now- and going on dates. Now is the time to consult someone who knows about dating and brush up on your skills. You want to make sure you don't get disqualified before you get a chance to decide if they have marriage potential. The matchmakers at www.noexcusestexas.com can help you with conversation topics, what to wear, where to go, etiquette, and every other tool you'll need to keep you in the game.  Contact info@noexcusestexas.com for a list of recommended reads before your date!  Hint: Ladies, do not wear a revealing top paired with revealing bottoms.  Men, do not wear a small baby t-shirt when you are clearly a large.

[...continued] You can get engaged in a year; if that is what you want.   Impossible- you say?  There just aren’t any good ones out there- you bargain?  No Excuses!  In this series we are going to tell you 7 steps to getting engaged in 1 year.

Step Three: Put yourself out there.   You must put yourself out there.  If you haven’t joined No Excuses Matchmaking www.noexcusestexas.com    -do it now.  If you aren’t a member of a gym, a club, a social group, a church, a volunteer group -join one.  You must make arrangements to be doing something with friends or family on a Saturday night.  You absolutely can NOT meet someone sitting at home on the weekend (and you certainly can’t get engaged).  Put yourself out there.  Now. 

Be a part of www.noexcusestexas.com social group.  E-mail us today at info@noexcusestexas.com to make sure you’re included in our social life. 

[...continued] You can get engaged in a year; if that is what you want.   Impossible- you say?  There just aren’t any good ones out there- you bargain?  No Excuses!  In this series we are going to tell you 7 steps to getting engaged in 1 year.

Step Two: You must be approachable.  Now that you've got your physical appearance in order; you must make eye contact with all of those members of the opposite sex that are noticing you.  You look great, so, you want to smile and make eye contact.  If you do not do these two things then you will not be approachable and thus, the goal can not be met!  People won't talk or come up to someone who looks too serious, is texting (or pretending to text) on their phone, talking on the phone, ignoring their surroundings, looks busy....on and on and on.  So many of us make the mistake of trying to seem preoccupied because we get NERVOUS in public places.  DON'T make this mistake. 

 And, contrary to popular belief, there's not a "BEST" place to meet singles.  Yes, there are places where your chances may go up, but, most singles are going on about their daily activities just like you are.  So, you'll meet them at the coffee shop, the gym, the grocery store, the bank, work place, and where ever else your daily schedule takes you.  So, always look good (step #1) and always make eye contact and smile (step #2).  

At www.noexcusestexas.com you can sign up for a personal consultation to review your interpersonal skills and build your confidence and make sure you have what it takes to conquer step 2 of the 7 steps it takes to be engaged in 1 year.

You can get engaged in a year; if that is what you want.   Impossible- you say?  There just aren’t any good ones out there- you bargain?  No Excuses!  In this series we are going to tell you 7 steps to getting engaged in 1 year.

Step One: You must look good.  Regardless of what one might say or think—it is true.  We (especially men) are visual creatures.  So, get your act together.  You must look good all of the time.  You never know when you will meet this person—the grocery store, the gym, the coffee shop, work appointment, lunchtime.  The list goes on and on and you must not be caught unprepared.  By looking good all of the time; we DO NOT mean overdone.  Don’t over do the make-up or the hair gel.  Don’t look like a fashion train wreck and for the love of God—be confident.  Put yourself together in a fashionable, but, not overdone wardrobe.  Wear some make-up (girls) and do your hair (guys).  If you feel like you need to lose some weight to be YOUR personal best—then do it.  You must look your best—all of the time. 

At www.noexcusestexas.com you can sign up for a personal consultation to review your look and make sure you have what it takes to conquer step 1 of the 7 steps it takes to be engaged in 1 year.

How is the NBA Championship Like Finding The One through www.noexcusestexas.com?

Well, for one, it takes years of preparation (dating) to finally have the fit (match) that creates a championship team (marriage). And don't think those super talented people found the team that was the best fit for them by theirselves-they have agents (matchmakers).

Once you sign with the right agency (www.noexcusestexas.com); you'll be on your way to being in your own World Championship (exclusive relationship with The One). And, don't worry-well find you someone with J.J. Barrea's looks, Dirk's game, and Jason Terry's charisma (or a Mavs Dancer for you guys).

The Matchmakers at www.noexcusestexas.com will coach their star (YOU!) along the way. We'll help you with technique, your style on "the court" (the date), and well get you to be your very best so that you'll never be "riding the bench again".

Just like Coach Carlisle has led the MAVS to achieve big things; we will help you attain the significant other of your dreams (probably didn't know you had it in ya). Go Mavs!