How I Met My Husband from a No Excuses Matchmaking Matchmaker!

In light of my three (YES, THREE!) year anniversary with my husband; I wanted to share the story of how we met with our No Excuses Matchmaking clients and Facebook friends.  At the end of March 2007, I was having lunch with a new friend of mine, Misty.  Over lunch we were having lighthearted conversation about guys, life in Dallas, and anything in general.  I told Misty that I wanted to meet a GOOD guy that had similar goals.  In literally five seconds she suggested that I meet a guy she knew that was a family guy, loyal friend, athletic, and a gentleman.  I was SOLD.  She suggested that she would send my myspace profile (yes, that was cool back then) to his e-mail so that he could see my pictures and read a little about me.  Later that day, she e-mailed me at work and said he wanted to meet me and could she give him my phone number.  He called me that evening and said he’d like to take me out to dinner in Dallas that Saturday.  I told him I was sorry, but, I had plans with my best high school girlfriends to come stay with me and we were hittin’ the town that night.  I politely offered that he could meet up with us for dinner.  He was a smart one… there would be 8 girls there and if he didn’t end up liking me then he would still have 7 other options.  So, that night he met us at Dragonfly at Hotel ZaZa and we had a lovely dinner.  8 months later we were engaged after dinner at Dragonfly and a sweet horse drawn carriage ride through Highland Park to look at Christmas lights.  We now have a precious little girl, too!  All this to say---this all started with someone who had a keen sense for matchmaking.  If you’ll notice, the process in which I met my husband is very similar to the No Excuses Matchmaking process today.  It works.  Trust me.  I would know. 

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[...continued] You can get engaged in a year; if that is what you want.   Impossible- you say?  There just aren’t any good ones out there- you bargain?  No Excuses!  In this series we are going to tell you 7 steps to getting engaged in 1 year.

Step Five: Eggs in separate baskets, please!  If you are doing steps 1-4 well; then you will likely be meeting someone who could be serious boyfriend/girlfriend potential.  DO NOT put all your eggs in one basket-yet!  More than likely, this special someone is still giving it a little time to see if this is indeed SERIOUS material.  So, keep dating other people.  DON’T date other people that are not potentials-that is a waste of time and energy.  But, do keep a couple of options open until the other person you are mainly interested in decides to commit.  More than likely SOMEONE will bring the topic of exclusivity up.  At No Excuses Matchmaking; we think it should be the guy.  We’re old-fashioned like that. 

Step Six:  Find a magic month and stick to it.  If after three months (that’s our recommendation); the man hasn’t made a suggestion for exclusivity then he’s either not into the woman or has commitment issues.  Regardless of “timing”- men who like women and vice versa will COMMIT to someone if they feel it’s worth it.  Again, we stress to the Ladies out there to let the man bring it up.  Do not even hint at it!  Let the man be a man!  And, if they don’t commit after 3 months to an exclusive relationship; they don’t want it.  You can give them 4 at the most.  But, if he/she isn’t ready to be your boyfriend/girlfriend by then-they certainly won’t be ready to be your fiancé in a year.

Step Seven: Engagement Stage!  You have found the person that you really, really like.  NOW, don’t get clingy, jealous, or needy.  Most people in this stage do become clingy, jealous, or needy and the opposite person realizes that this person is no different than the others and decides it is not marriage material.  So, keep going out with your friends and going about your daily activities.  Do stuff for your partner, but, do not go over board.  Let them know you want them in your life, but, you existence is not dependent on them.  Pretty soon your partner will start to notice how unique you are and that they’d like to keep you around forever.  At this point, the GENTLEMAN will begin planning for a proposal.  Do these steps precisely-they work! 

Visit www.noexcusestexas.com to begin the journey in meeting someone so that you can be engaged in a year (if that’s what you want).

Happy Dating!