[...continued] You can get engaged in a year; if that is what you want.   Impossible- you say?  There just aren’t any good ones out there- you bargain?  No Excuses!  In this series we are going to tell you 7 steps to getting engaged in 1 year.

Step Five: Eggs in separate baskets, please!  If you are doing steps 1-4 well; then you will likely be meeting someone who could be serious boyfriend/girlfriend potential.  DO NOT put all your eggs in one basket-yet!  More than likely, this special someone is still giving it a little time to see if this is indeed SERIOUS material.  So, keep dating other people.  DON’T date other people that are not potentials-that is a waste of time and energy.  But, do keep a couple of options open until the other person you are mainly interested in decides to commit.  More than likely SOMEONE will bring the topic of exclusivity up.  At No Excuses Matchmaking; we think it should be the guy.  We’re old-fashioned like that. 

Step Six:  Find a magic month and stick to it.  If after three months (that’s our recommendation); the man hasn’t made a suggestion for exclusivity then he’s either not into the woman or has commitment issues.  Regardless of “timing”- men who like women and vice versa will COMMIT to someone if they feel it’s worth it.  Again, we stress to the Ladies out there to let the man bring it up.  Do not even hint at it!  Let the man be a man!  And, if they don’t commit after 3 months to an exclusive relationship; they don’t want it.  You can give them 4 at the most.  But, if he/she isn’t ready to be your boyfriend/girlfriend by then-they certainly won’t be ready to be your fiancé in a year.

Step Seven: Engagement Stage!  You have found the person that you really, really like.  NOW, don’t get clingy, jealous, or needy.  Most people in this stage do become clingy, jealous, or needy and the opposite person realizes that this person is no different than the others and decides it is not marriage material.  So, keep going out with your friends and going about your daily activities.  Do stuff for your partner, but, do not go over board.  Let them know you want them in your life, but, you existence is not dependent on them.  Pretty soon your partner will start to notice how unique you are and that they’d like to keep you around forever.  At this point, the GENTLEMAN will begin planning for a proposal.  Do these steps precisely-they work! 

Visit www.noexcusestexas.com to begin the journey in meeting someone so that you can be engaged in a year (if that’s what you want).

Happy Dating!